Aren't you loving these parenting tips from the book "Discipline: 101 Alternatives to Nagging, Yelling, and Spanking" by Dr. Alvin Price and Jay A. Parry? Even though the book is ancient by modern standards, I find that good old-fashioned advice is sometimes the best. All of the tips are very useful but in this section, the tips I find most helpful are 74, 82, 83, 85, 90 and 100. Read through and find what is helpful to you.
69. Having one-on-one communication between parent and child eliminates a lot of discipline problems. It forms good relationships; and good relationships are a great preventative when it comes to misbehavior.
70. Meeting the child’s physical needs will sometimes help eliminate discipline problems.
71. When parents can help a child “own” a problem, the child will be much more apt to change his behavior.
72. Sometimes children are able to come up with effective answers to problems. Yet they’re often unable to express what they think or feel. Parents can help a child to share ideas through reflective listening and acting out reverse roles.
73. Visual cues and visual rewards can have a great influence on a child. Charts, stickers, and tags are great alternatives to spanking.
74. Kids often misbehave through a lack of understanding, rather than through a desire to do something wrong. If parents learn this is the case, they can simply clear up the misunderstanding instead of punish.
75. Teach children correct behaviors through showing them what you want, as well as telling them.
76. The time when parents ask their kids to do things can make a lot of difference in how willingly the kids do it. If they’re creating discipline problems, change the timing for better results.
77. Surroundings can make a difference in how children behave. The right surroundings can eliminate some discipline problems.
78. Find an exact place for things and make sure kids know where what goes where.
79. Place things where the kids can get at them easily. They they’ll be more willing to do their chores.
80. A child’s curiosity intensifies her desire to behave correctly. Surprises and secret rewards are fun alternatives to spanking.
81. Responding in an unexpected manner is sometimes a good way to solve discipline problems. It will catch the child off-guard and will often bring the desired change.
82. Change the order of your child’s activities. If he doesn’t respond to one kind of schedule, try another. Remember this: it generally works best to put the most desirable activities after the least desirable.
83. Rewarding negative behavior starts discipline problems early, while rewarding positive behavior often eliminates the discipline problem altogether.
84. Dealing with a child’s feelings about her position in the family can do much to alleviate discipline problems.
85. When our children do something wrong, instead of getting things rolling in a negative direction, we can make sure we develop some positive inertia by getting them saying yes…
86. …or avoiding the negative flow of events by separating the children.
87. It also helps to get family habits started in the right direction as early as possible. Whatever direction you begin the discipline in is the direction you most likely stay in.
88. We, as parents, often have a tendency to follow in the footsteps of our own parents, whether good or bad. It helps, then, to figure out how we were raised, and then to set new goals for how we want to be with our children.
89. Sometimes our patterns of behavior trap us in never-ending circles. If we hope to discipline without spanking, we need to break out of the circle.
90. An important part of teaching discipline is helping children learn to respect the rights of others. Once children learn to honor others’ rights, a lot of discipline problems will be solved.
91. Find out what the child wants. Determine what you want. Then line up your needs.
92. Deal with fighting between children by first finding out what kind of fighting the children are involved in. If they’re fighting over an issue, eliminate future problems by solving the issue once and for all.
93. If kids are fighting because they’re bored, give them something to do.
94. If kids are fighting because they want attention, ignore them. Leave the room if necessary.
95. If a child steals, apply the logical consequence of stealing, which is to return the item.
96. Deal with problems in getting chores done by setting a good example of being industrious and responsible…
97. …and letting the children be involved in the assignments you give…
98. …and recognizing that the younger you start giving responsibility to a child, the better…
99. …and having a family rule that chores come before fun…
100. …and helping the children learn a new responsibility by working alongside him for a while…
101. …and helping the child know exactly what’s expected…
69. Having one-on-one communication between parent and child eliminates a lot of discipline problems. It forms good relationships; and good relationships are a great preventative when it comes to misbehavior.
70. Meeting the child’s physical needs will sometimes help eliminate discipline problems.
71. When parents can help a child “own” a problem, the child will be much more apt to change his behavior.
72. Sometimes children are able to come up with effective answers to problems. Yet they’re often unable to express what they think or feel. Parents can help a child to share ideas through reflective listening and acting out reverse roles.
73. Visual cues and visual rewards can have a great influence on a child. Charts, stickers, and tags are great alternatives to spanking.
74. Kids often misbehave through a lack of understanding, rather than through a desire to do something wrong. If parents learn this is the case, they can simply clear up the misunderstanding instead of punish.
75. Teach children correct behaviors through showing them what you want, as well as telling them.
76. The time when parents ask their kids to do things can make a lot of difference in how willingly the kids do it. If they’re creating discipline problems, change the timing for better results.
77. Surroundings can make a difference in how children behave. The right surroundings can eliminate some discipline problems.
78. Find an exact place for things and make sure kids know where what goes where.
79. Place things where the kids can get at them easily. They they’ll be more willing to do their chores.
80. A child’s curiosity intensifies her desire to behave correctly. Surprises and secret rewards are fun alternatives to spanking.
81. Responding in an unexpected manner is sometimes a good way to solve discipline problems. It will catch the child off-guard and will often bring the desired change.
82. Change the order of your child’s activities. If he doesn’t respond to one kind of schedule, try another. Remember this: it generally works best to put the most desirable activities after the least desirable.
83. Rewarding negative behavior starts discipline problems early, while rewarding positive behavior often eliminates the discipline problem altogether.
84. Dealing with a child’s feelings about her position in the family can do much to alleviate discipline problems.
85. When our children do something wrong, instead of getting things rolling in a negative direction, we can make sure we develop some positive inertia by getting them saying yes…
86. …or avoiding the negative flow of events by separating the children.
87. It also helps to get family habits started in the right direction as early as possible. Whatever direction you begin the discipline in is the direction you most likely stay in.
88. We, as parents, often have a tendency to follow in the footsteps of our own parents, whether good or bad. It helps, then, to figure out how we were raised, and then to set new goals for how we want to be with our children.
89. Sometimes our patterns of behavior trap us in never-ending circles. If we hope to discipline without spanking, we need to break out of the circle.
90. An important part of teaching discipline is helping children learn to respect the rights of others. Once children learn to honor others’ rights, a lot of discipline problems will be solved.
91. Find out what the child wants. Determine what you want. Then line up your needs.
92. Deal with fighting between children by first finding out what kind of fighting the children are involved in. If they’re fighting over an issue, eliminate future problems by solving the issue once and for all.
93. If kids are fighting because they’re bored, give them something to do.
94. If kids are fighting because they want attention, ignore them. Leave the room if necessary.
95. If a child steals, apply the logical consequence of stealing, which is to return the item.
96. Deal with problems in getting chores done by setting a good example of being industrious and responsible…
97. …and letting the children be involved in the assignments you give…
98. …and recognizing that the younger you start giving responsibility to a child, the better…
99. …and having a family rule that chores come before fun…
100. …and helping the children learn a new responsibility by working alongside him for a while…
101. …and helping the child know exactly what’s expected…
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